Wednesday, May 31, 2017

Fate Doesn't Guarantee us a Happy Ending


This is one of those books that I will come back to read again. I did not expect it to be the kind of story it was. I don't even want to say more because I was told to go in to it blind and I suggest that to all of you too!


I'm SO surprised I liked this so much. I just assumed that the cartoon was one of those stupid mind-numbing cartoons that I hate. Then I picked this graphic novel up and LOVED it. Now I have to watch the stupid cartoon to see if I like it too.




I did not expect to like this series at all. It seemed way too sc-fi for me. I was wrong, these books were AMAZING! I listened to them on audio-book but I will definitely be buying this books to put them on my shelf. I need to revisit Russia because I believe I fell in love there too.


This book was amazing. I didn't want to put it down but also wanted to keep putting it down so I could delay it ending. I don't think that I have read this author before but she is going on my list of authors to check out! 

Tuesday, May 30, 2017

Between The Pages

Saturday, May 27, 2017

My Dream Home

A friend of mine has been talking about a new house they are looking at. This started a large conversation between all of our friends about what type of house would be our dream house. I mean we all want a huge mansion with a library that you can compare to Belle’s. However, when I thought about doing this post I thought about what my more reasonable dream house would be like. Since I already love looking at floor plans I figured why not throw in a visual of what my dream house could look like.

The things on my want list is a porch on the front and back of the house, a room I can make into a library, walk in closets in the master (his and her walk ins would be even better), and a big bath tub! My husband’s want list includes porches in the front and back or a wrap around, the master opening up to one of the porches, rocking chairs for our porches, a bay window somewhere in the house, and a mancave/media room.

I have looked at many, many floorplans but I think this one would fit every one of our needs.

The porch is big enough for rocking chairs. You walk in to a foyer with the dining room on the right. I've always loved the idea of having a dining room and the family sitting down to eat dinner together at the table. Well, it just doesn't happen that way, no matter how much we try so I would definitely turn my dining room into my library.

The great room would be our main living area and with a vaulted ceiling! *swoon* The kitchen has a breakfast area that has a bay window.

The washer and dryer are right next to the master. The master doesn't have two walk in closets but is so big it has two sides which is essentially the same thing. I really like that the toilet is separate from
the shower/bath/sink area. The Master opens up to the back screen porch which we both love!

On the other side of the house is three bedrooms and two full baths. The whole house has three full baths and one half bath. More toilets then I want to scrub but whatever. Each bedroom has a decent sized closet. We hope to have three children if not hopefully we'll have at least two and the third bedroom can be used as a guest bedroom.

The big pull to this house is the storage upstairs! I hate to say we have a lot of crap. But we have a lot of crap. Good crap - memorabilia, pictures, things we are holding on to that we don't really need to hold on to but we're going to anyway. I have tried to get rid of things and it just doesn't happen. I'm okay with it. I've moved beyond it. This storage will be the end all to a lot of things and just think how fun that will be for the kids to go through!

Anyway, the other room - the bonus room will be the mancave/media room. We want somewhere to put our Steelers memorabilia and a big movie screen with a projector. We would love to have one of those arcade basketball games, one that keeps score because what's the point if it doesn't? We want a big overly comfy couch and a recliner to watch the movies and play video games in. Also, we love that this room would be over the garage so all of the noise that I have no doubt would be coming from the room, will not disturb everyone. Especially during playoff season.

I don't have much picked out for the outside other then a fire pit in the back somewhere and rose bushes in the front yard.

We have talked about our dream house for years. Hopefully one day that dream will come true!

Wednesday, May 24, 2017

She is Strong, She is Fierce, She is Full of Fire!

     I wanted to do a Wordless Wednesday however I have words to say. It is hard being in a relationship where you are being mentally and verbally abused. The abuser does not leave marks for people to see and usually is the most charismatic person ever, in front of other people. When you are being mentally and verbally abused you are told you are worthless, everyone thinks this of you they just won't say it to your face, it isn't abuse it's the truth, you deserve what is being said, you do nothing right, if only you were a little bit better, etc. They break you down until you start to believe what they say. Maybe you are making things up to start an argument, maybe you don't do as much as you thought, maybe they're right - no one else would want you. They say these things so often you start to believe it. When it isn't happening to you, it sounds easy to just say that the person can just walk away. However, if you've been told you can't survive on your own, you are lazy and worthless, all this by someone who supposedly loves you - it is hard to believe in yourself. It takes amazing strength and courage to say that you will no longer take this. You will no longer deal with this. That you ARE worth everything and more. To leave it all behind.

Happy Anniversary to one of my bestest!

Monday, May 22, 2017

Poetry, Ghosts, Storytelling, and a Mystery!

   I wanted to share some of my favorite books from when I was younger with you guys. The first is three different books but all by the same author. Shel Silverstein. I loved his poems then and looking back at some of them now, they are a lot more deep then I understood. I guess that's why everyone loves his poetry. They have a little something for everyone.

     The second book I want to share with you is Time for Andrew by Mary Downing Hahn. It's a ghost story about a boy named Andrew who meets a ghost that looks identical from him but is from long ago. I do not know how I came upon this book but I can still remember the story so vividly. It is one of my favorite books - now if I could only get my hands on a copy of my own!

     The third book I read in the summer between 7th and 8th grade. I'm going to share what Goodreads says about this book "As Sal entertains her grandparents with Phoebe's outrageous story, her own story begins to unfold — the story of a thirteen-year-old girl whose only wish is to be reunited with her missing mother.

    In her own award-winning style, Sharon Creech intricately weaves together two tales, one funny, one bittersweet, to create a heartwarming, compelling, and utterly moving story of love, loss, and the complexity of human emotion. "

    The fourth book I want to show you is a series. I started it when I was in middle school and about half way through high school I stopped reading the series for some reason or another. When I went to college I tried to find the rest of the series. I just had 5 or 6 more books to read but I couldn't find them anywhere. So I wrote the author and told her how I started the series in middle school and I couldn't get it off my mind. I needed to finish it. I told her I've looked in all my local bookstores in my college town and my hometown and couldn't find them. I wanted to know if she could point me in the right direction. I figured the author has to know where they were being sold right? Let me point out that amazon wasn't as huge then and I couldn't find more then one book on there. I figured nothing would come of the letter. However, two or three months later I got a package from her publisher with the rest of the series!! I jumped up and down and freaked out. Everyone thought I was completely insane. Here I was in college studying to become a social worker and freaking out over middle grade books. Needless to say I didn't have a lot of bookworm friends in college. Thank goodness I got the books on a Thursday because I only had to get through one more day of classes and I could BINGE. Which I did. Anyway, I've done nothing but gush about this series without telling you what it is, Replica by Marilyn Kaye, and what it is about. It is about 12 year old girl named Amy. Her life seems perfectly normal until one day she all of a sudden has a crescent shaped birth mark, someone is following her and taking pictures, and her mom starts acting weird. To top it off she starts getting anonymous letters telling her to keep all her talents a secret. I can't say much more then that but I love the series!

     I've read a ton of books over the years but these were my favorites going in to college. Share with me your favorite childhood book or books below!

Saturday, May 20, 2017

Okay But Did She Do It?

     I started The Silent Sister by Diane Chamberlain exactly a week ago. I ended up giving it to my Grama to read while she was in the ER with my Mom (she's home now and okay). Well she ended up reading the whole book and loved it! I was only 80 pages in but I was HOOKED! I could not wait to get it back so I could read more. There is SO much going on in this story but I love it all. However, now that I have it back it is going too fast! I keep putting it down because I do not want it to end. I went on Goodreads and there is not a second book (though there is a prequel). So this is it. I have a feeling this is just one of those stories I will remember and love. I can already tell this will be a book I'm going to read again. The synopsis of the book doesn't do it justice but I'm going to put it here anyway:

In The Silent Sister, Riley MacPherson has spent her entire life believing that her older sister Lisa committed suicide as a teenager. Now, over twenty years later, her father has passed away and she's in New Bern, North Carolina cleaning out his house when she finds evidence to the contrary. Lisa is alive. Alive and living under a new identity. But why exactly was she on the run all those years ago, and what secrets are being kept now? As Riley works to uncover the truth, her discoveries will put into question everything she thought she knew about her family. Riley must decide what the past means for her present, and what she will do with her newfound reality, in this engrossing mystery from international bestselling author Diane Chamberlain.
      I'll definitely be sharing my thoughts on it at the end of the month but I can't imagine I'll have any emotion but love for this book!

Wednesday, May 17, 2017

Top 5 Tips

   This week our subject is parental advice. What are the top 5 tips from your parents that have been useful? I literally use advice and tips from my mother all the time. Every day. Yet when it came time to write down only five, my top five, it proved to be very hard. So I'm going to share five, maybe my top five? I guess it depends on the day, right? 

The first one will sound funny and mean all at the same time but trust me, it helps. Don't look at children when they fall. I told you - sounds mean, but it's not. What she means is when you see a kid going to fall (obviously not a BAD fall, just a normal every day fall) do NOT make direct eye contact. Generally the first thing a child will do when they fall is look at you. if they see you looking at them they will cry. Why this happens I don't know, but it does. I've become a PRO at this! I now look away, wait a second.. is there crying? If the answer is no then I continue to look away ask 'you okay?' THEN look to get the answer. Of course if the child cries that's a whole different story. 

The second one also ties in with the third and fourth. Don't take shit from people. You don't have to deal with people treating you like crap. You do not have to deal with disrespect and hatefulness. 

However, you must also choose your battles. Not every fight is a fight worth having. This doesn't mean letting someone get away with murder if you've already argued with them over something that day. It means choosing which things you feel is worth pushing that conversation a littler further. For example if I'm dealing with a child and they don't want to do something, like pick up a toy. Is it worth the fight? Is it absolutely necessary for them to pick up that toy right this second. Sometimes it is easier for me to pick up the toy then fight with a child about it for fifteen minutes. Did the child play with it and leave it, if the answer is yes, then it's probably not a fight I'm going to pick. Did the child throw it out of temper? yes? Then we're going to talk about it and the toy will be picked up. See what I mean? 

Sometimes, if you've chosen that this is a battle worth having, kill the with kindness. No matter how angry and displeased you are, screaming, yelling, cursing, becoming belligerent is not going to get you anywhere. People are more likely to help you or deal with you if you are stating your peace but doing it respectfully and kindly. Of course this isn't always applicable but when it is. It works wonders. Also when someone is expecting hate to come spewing from your mouth and they get kindness instead it annoys them to no end. This can end up being very gratifying for you (haha). 

Last but not least you must forgive people. When you hold on to hate in only hurts you, it doesn't hurt them. For the longest time I thought my mother wanted me to just forget what happened but that is not what she was saying. She was saying do not hold hate in your heart for these people that aren't worth your time. Forgive them, they're ignorant but don't forget what they did. Guard your heart more closely when they are near. This is so important because she's absolutely right. What does me having so much hate for a person do? They don't know or don't care and meanwhile I'm stewing over it and just stressing myself out! It's not worth it. 

This was much harder to do then I thought it would be. My mother taught me everything I know so how do I pick just five? I'm going to end this post with three more of my mom's 'words of wisdom' but without the explanations. If you want to know more just ask. Also, let me know what some of the tips and advice you've gotten from your parents!

Take it one step at a time.           Don't sweat the small stuff!
Don't project (deal with things as them come)!

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Tuesday, May 16, 2017

The Silent Killer

    Sepsis is a scary thing. Mom had severe sepsis two days ago and is now doing better. She has had septic shock before. It is always good to know the warning signs to catch it before it gets to severe. 

Wednesday, May 10, 2017

Good Riddance!

     Yesterday I was finally able to get to a dentist to have my right wisdom tooth taken out. Due to immune issues and medications my teeth quickly degrade. I will notice a problem and then
sometimes within a month it's a much bigger problem. Anyway, my back tooth developed a cavity then it got worse from there. I haven't been able to get to a dentist until now. I went in and was so excited to have it pulled because it had just started really bothering me. They took the x-ray and did an exam. I could tell by the way the Dentist was looking at his assistant that things were not going to go as planned. He sighed and said that this wisdom tooth is a little tricky. The root has kind of hooked down and around another root and it was right above a main nerve. Not something he would mess with. So he said he was referring me to an oral surgeon. Maybe I should have started out with we were paying for this out of pocket and hearing the words 'oral surgeon' I assumed this would become a MUCH bigger bill. So I was internally panicking that this would not be getting done any time soon.
     I was surprised when the dental assistant came back and said they could see me today. They would give me the pricing there but they didn't expect it to be too high. I had to wait 4 hours before I could be seen and in the mean time I was worried I was going to have to pay for them to do an exam then be told it was going to cost $1,000 or something like that and I'd have to leave without having my
tooth pulled (I worried over nothing!). The oral surgeon explained more about what was going on with my tooth. There is a nerve running just below that wisdom tooth (right above the red line I've drawn). It is the nerve that controls the feeling in that side of my face and tongue. The reason the other Dentist doesn't deal with this is because it could get tricky when pulling out my tooth especially if it broke, which they were expecting it to, because they'd have to use a drill and it would be too close to the nerve. It is just something that an oral surgeon deals with. He showed me how much my tooth had degraded - reason A they thought my tooth would break while being pulled. Where it's suppose to be white on the inside like the tooth on the right, mine was almost completely hollow and broken which you can see (where the grey arrow is pointing) because it's black and grey. Reason B is my root had grown down and around another root. The nerves in your teeth should make a H shape which the on on the right does but the one in the back doesn't (see the yellow area). Because of this they assumed that the roots would break off and they would have to end up using the drill. Nothing can be simple right? haha.
     Once they numbed my mouth (by the way OW to the needle that went into the exposed nerve!) it took maybe 10 minutes. The tooth didn't crack or break apart so it was super simple. No drill, no stitches! It ended up only costing a little more than I expected but that's because I had to go to two places and not just one. NOTHING like I was terrified of.
     Last night I was up every two hours or so because my jaw was hurting so badly. The pain was breaking through the pain medicine and I had run out of advil to combat the in-between medicine pain. However, this morning I am feeling MUCH better! It is amazing how much the pain from a wisdom tooth can radiate. My ear, head, and neck have been hurting for a month or so and already the pain is lessening. I'm sure once I'm all the way healed it will diminish completely. I am so glad this is done and over with!

Wednesday, May 3, 2017

Top 5 Fandoms

Today's Top 5 is Top 5 Fandoms. What is a fandom? A fandom is the state or condition of being a fan of someone or something. Or the fans of a particular person, team, fictional series, etc., regarded collectively as a community or subculture. So essentially these are the top 5 things I fangirl over. 

     Yeah, yeah. If you aren't a fan of Twilight then you've most likely made fun of those who are fans of Twilight. I am not the biggest fan of the movies - at least the first two but I am a huge fan of the books. I have read and reread the books. These books are the first books I fell in love with, the first books I stood in line for at midnight and the first books that truly let me just escape from the world I was in. The best part? They take place in our world - a place that I can actually visit. Which I have and thoroughly enjoyed. I'm grateful for this series. It came at a time I needed it and it made me fall in love with YA books. 

Harry Potter
    I was late to the Harry Potter fandom. I had tried to read the books when they first came out but I just couldn't get past the first book, no matter how hard I tried. Once the movies came out I fell in love with them. A few years ago I started reading the books and slowly but surely I'm making my way through them. I think having a visual and having heard someone pronounce the words has helped me a lot. I definitely think that is what was holding me back. 

     I just discovered this show 2ish years ago and oh my goodness. It is amazing! It's got everything and I love it. I could gush for days but I won't. If you've watched it I'm sure you love it just as much as me. I'm currently beginning season 11 and I am SO excited! 

Marvel Movies
     Yeah - I say movies because I haven't followed the comics. I know nothing of the story lines except for what the movies tell me. I love all things that go KA-BOOM so obviously these are some of my favorite movies. I can watch them over and over and never get bored. I can't explain why I love them so much, just that I do. 

     I love the music, the princesses that everyone says are weak but are really strong, the art, the sidekicks and did I mention the music? I have so many favorite Disney movies but I think my top three are Beauty and the Beast, Moana, and Tangled. Ugh, let's go with top four because I love The Little Mermaid too! I am that girl who gets an autograph book every time I go to Disney, I cry during the shows that are put on, I geek out over seeing princesses, and I HAVE to see Pluto (my favorite character)! We went to Disney World for out honeymoon - I mean really... need I say more?

     What are your five fandoms? Let me know below!

Also all the AMAZING artwork above was done by Alice X. Zhang and you can go to her Deviant Art page here or her facebook page here. You've got to see her work - it was hard to just pick one for each fandom!